Breakups

 
     Hello everyone I wanted to make an extra post simply because I feel as though I should give insight to people that may be struggling with this right now. Usually I don't really do these kinds of posts, you guys already know my day to day routine but I thought it would be nice to switch it up and really give insight into something that I personally dealt with recently and to be honest something I'm still dealing with. What to say... first off I'm not an expert nor would I ever claim myself to be an expert this is just something I wanted to talk about and wanted to discuss upon, I will be majoring in psychology and this is something that truly interests me to actually want to help eveluate problems such as these. For now though I am just a 17 year old teenager. I don't have much experience, heck I don't have a lot of knowledge either but I know that I have some sort of logical sense in my brain somewhere in order to comphrend these situations. First off, I was in a relationship for a month and you may be thinking well clearly this is the issue, but truly this could happen to anyone... regardless of how long your in a relationship with someone really does not mean anything. Being aware of that time and only valuing it because you've made it past a year isn't something that should be held as a higher power. Being happy with the relationship is what matters the most in the end of the day not how long you've been with someone. I've known this person for over 5 years to begin with. We lasted for a month. I had more feelings for him than he did for me so he ended up cutting ties with me. We still love each other as individuals but you have to understand the meaning of "letting go".. the easiest thing I found that's helped me a lot is just being aware of what happened. Let out your emotions because its healthy, vent to a family member or to any loved one, that will truly help and once you're done with that stage, find what you love to do best or what motivates you from day to day and focus on that and your well being. Its going to take some time but everyone is different. I am finally assured that I'm great and its only been 3 weeks since we called it ends meet. People can go on for years and years wondering what if. But you have to make a decision with yourself. Do you want to be happy? If yes. Then go make that change for yourself. Spend some time with yourself, get to love and apperciate yourseld, treat yourself. You deserve what you want and what you will think is best for you so don't try to make yourself feel as though you are not worthy when really you are. Let your mind ease into a routine of treating yourself better physically and mentally and that will truly help out to calm your emotions from a breakup. Its hard don't get me wrong. But you are in Control of it in the end of the day. You set the rules of wanting to make it harder or easier for yourself. Please don't settle for less because you're amazing. Take care my lovelies.
                                                                     - 17 year old girl